If We Were Having Coffee…


Oftentimes I wish I could sit down with you and have a chat over coffee. It’s funny, how many of you I feel like I know from years online, yet have never met in person. It doesn’t dampen the friendship or connection any less, and in fact, there are times I’m excited to share news with someone in particular, realizing that they’re technically an “internet friend” in the process.

So for those of you I can’t meet for coffee this afternoon due to geographical constraints, and for those of you who are new around here and may not know me all that well, let’s sit down and have a “chat” over coffee. Even if it is in our own respective cities.

(Jamie of The Perpetual Page-Turner introduced me to this idea and I fell in love with it from the start!)

If we were having coffee… I’d tell you how I’m keeping a consistent journal for the first time since middle school and how it’s helping me cope with hard thoughts, mental confusion, and difficult decisions. The only “rule” I set was to write something at least once a month. It doesn’t have to be pretty or polished. While it’s nice to have a way to capture memories and moments that are important to me, it’s also freeing to have a place to stream-of-conscious write. The latter has been helping me with any anxiety and stress that’s crept up lately.

If we were having coffee… I’d show you all of the cute pictures of my dog on my phone. She’s technically my boyfriend’s dog, but I love her like my own.

bailey dog

If we were having coffee…I’d tell you about my decision to go “back to school” and learn front-end development on my own. I did a stint as a Computer Science major in college but calculus kicked my butt. I’ve been taking some online classes, though, and realized how much I love working with HTML and CSS, Javascript, and all of the cool new things the internet can do since I last built a website with <table></table> in high school! It’s one of those things that I just get a completely invigorating feeling of accomplishment, working through challenges, and I haven’t felt that rush in a long time.

If we were having coffee… I’d vent to you about my frustrations with the public education system. I’m not ready to talk about my experience quite yet, but it still irks me to see and hear some of the perceptions of teachers and distorted expectations of public education that pervades our society. Ugh.

If we were having coffee… I’d tell you about all of the exciting changes my new job in marketing has brought! For the first time ever, my hours are flexible and not governed by kids’ schedules. I can go to the bathroom whenever I want! I can drink more coffee! I don’t have to pack lunch! All of these things excite me (especially the meatballs from Emporio that Marissa and I lunch-date at frequently), but it is a change. I’m still adjusting to not being in the realm of public education, but I’m infinitely happier working where I’m encouraged to grow as a person and as an employee in a meaningful way. I’ve made a lot of incredible connections through my job, and have had some pretty incredible opportunities come my way. I’m excited to see where this takes me!

If we were having coffee… I’d admit that I haven’t been reading much the past few months. With all of the construction in the house, my schedule’s been disrupted. I am glad that I get some reading time on the bus during my commute, but am still trying to find a way to not get sick when I read on the bus. Advice?

If we were having coffee… I’d also admit that I don’t really care that I fell off of the blogging planet. I was fed up with the blogosphere for the longest time, feeling pressured to monetize my life and tried to rationalize the competing ideas of blogging about useful, value-oriented, evergreen posts and LiveJournal-type personal stories. I think I do want to stay active in the blog world, but not necessarily in the way that the culture’s been going lately. I’m ironing out the kinks and trying to figure out my own path. Eventually.

If we were having coffee… I’d show you a preview of the editing site I’m building. I’ve been working with some clients over the past year to build some more experience in non-fiction, and realized that My Life as a Teacup is not a good place for an editing company. So, ta-da! It’s called Red Ink Editing! The site’s not live yet, since I’ve been determined to build the whole thing from scratch myself, learning more about coding along the way, but you can follow along on Twitter and via @redinkediting on Instagram, & bookmark the site if you want to polish up your NaNoWriMo novel down the road!

If we were having coffee… I’d ask you to please not spoil The Walking Dead! I somehow survived not hearing any spoilers about the new season, despite only being on Season 4. I’m working on catching up ASAP!

What are you up to these days? If you want to comment or send me an email and chat, I’d love to hear from you!

  • It’s funny because I wrote a similar post this Tuesday on my blog 🙂 I’m missing your blog posts, but I’m happy you’re living your life. Sometimes being outside the internet (or the blogging world, in this case) is the best thing. Your dog is adorable!!! <3

    • I’m even behind in my reading of blogs, argh! I desperately need to nail down a new routine, which will be so much easier when we’re done with house remodels, haha. Thank you! Life outside the internet is pretty good (and I hope it is for you too!)

  • Glad to hear that you’re doing well at your new job!! I’m in the same blogging boat as you lately. I love the more personal posts that people create (but I still have high photo standards) but there’s such a lack of them lately and I just haven’t felt motivated myself. I’ve pretty much just been channeling all of my energy into BookTube and Bookstagram and I’m loving both<3 I too get sick reading in cars so let me know if you get any good advice! It's so weird because I have no issue reading on trains! The only suggestion I could make would be to maybe try audio books?

    • BookTube and Bookstagram have been a godsend, but with all of the construction in our house right now, taking pictures would just involve a lot of sawdust, haha. I’m hoping to get all of my photo equipment and actual fun book stuff back in commission soon to enjoy that part of “blogging” again. I’ll definitely keep you posted on the car sickness advice. Audiobooks is the one thing I keep finding it hard to get into for some reason. Access to them still isn’t easy for me.

  • I love this post! I feel you with all of the blogging stuff…I tend to drop off the planet too…even with my shop stuff, I just close it down because I can’t deal with everything and just need to drink coffee + crochet. I’m glad your job is going well! Your dog is adorable! I’m so happy you are happy and following your dreams. Best of luck lady! xo

    • Thank you! And yeah, how do you even want to come back from that!? Coffee + crochet sounds divine.

  • I totally get what you mean about frustrations with the public education system. I didn’t have the same role as you did, in the classroom, but I worked for classroom teachers for eight years. It’s such an underappreciated and misunderstood profession. Glad you’re liking your new job, however. I’m in a similar boat, having switch to the technology sector. 🙂

    • Even if you’ve been around that culture for a period of time, you have a sense of the craziness that’s involved. I know no job is without the bad parts, but it’s hard to explain to people with no experience in the world of public education why it’s particularly loathsome and a little scary. Thank you! You seem to be rocking the leap pretty well yourself!

  • Allison Poorman

    Loved your post!

  • Good for you for leaving a job that was frustrating! I’m so happy for you that you’re following your dreams and doing what you love! You go, girl! Definitely bookmarking Red Ink Editing! I’m more than halfway through my NaNoWriMo novel, but it’s going to need some serious edits later on since I’ve been writing it by hand. Wish we lived closer, so we could chat over real coffee! 🙂

    • Thank you! I know — having you in person was a blast and I wish we could get coffee for real! You let me know when you need someone for edits 😀

  • Kay

    I’m glad you’re liking your new job! While I’ve never worked in public education, my best friend in a teacher, and I have lent an ear and shoulder to many frustrations that the job brings. I’m glad you’ve found something that brings you less stress!

    I also completely understand your thoughts on the blogging world and being a bit jaded on the current standard blog culture. (Constant useful content! Regular posts! Monetize!) I don’t really have any interest in blogging that way. Which some days I’m fine with, and some days I feel guilty about. Wishing you the best with figuring out your wants for the blogging world!

    Also, your pup is precious! 🙂

    • Aw, thank you! And I’m sure just being close to a teacher lends itself to lots of fun stories.

      Blog culture, ugh. It makes sense that it shifts from super-personal one year, to monetize the next, but exactly – I’m not interested in the latter but figuring out a different take is hard.

  • I’m sorry teaching didn’t work out – I think you would have been a great inspiration to your students. But you have to put yourself first, and marketing is a great career! I’m trying to get into marketing more myself, although I have a new job lined up at the start of december as a business development manager. I’m hoping to work marketing elements into my role so I can have something solid on my CV.
    Love this post – and don’t feel pressured to monitise your blog! I ignore all that rubbish. I have a job – I don’t need to get my blog to make money. So, I write what I want to write, when I want to write it.

    • Thank you, I do love and miss my kids. There’s so much I would love to share and teach them, but I’ve found that public education is not the venue for me to do that. Marketing has been a great way for me to put my writing background to use, and while I don’t know that I want to do it forever, it’s precisely what I need right now. Your new job sounds pretty exciting! I’m sure it’d be natural to work in some marketing bits and expand your CV in a way that points to where you want to be! Good luck!

  • I love this post! I’m going through a lot of the same things at the moment, especially the blogging aspect. Good luck all the amazing things you are doing!! xx

    • I’m not glad you’re going through the same puzzling questions too (wouldn’t it be nice if everything could just be smooth sailing all of the time!) but it is nice to know that you’re not the only one in that boat 🙂 I hope you figure out where you want to be, and thank you for the well wishes!